Raymond Barney
B: 1952-10-31
D: 2020-07-03
View Details
Barney, Raymond
Edith Norman
B: 1937-03-28
D: 2020-07-02
View Details
Norman, Edith
Veronica Smoke
B: 1958-04-10
D: 2020-07-01
View Details
Smoke, Veronica
Louis Jacobs
B: 1959-02-05
D: 2020-07-01
View Details
Jacobs, Louis
Marjorie King
B: 1930-04-08
D: 2020-06-29
View Details
King, Marjorie
Franklin Howie
B: 1947-10-02
D: 2020-06-27
View Details
Howie, Franklin
Shirley Kuno
B: 1945-03-08
D: 2020-06-25
View Details
Kuno, Shirley
R. Dane Markham
B: 1957-03-22
D: 2020-06-23
View Details
Markham, R. Dane
Edward Fleury
B: 1956-07-31
D: 2020-06-22
View Details
Fleury, Edward
Abraham Francis
B: 1963-07-20
D: 2020-06-19
View Details
Francis, Abraham
Joan Barney
B: 1934-09-06
D: 2020-06-16
View Details
Barney, Joan
Kenneth Arquette
B: 1954-10-24
D: 2020-06-14
View Details
Arquette, Kenneth
Thomas Kiereck
B: 1961-09-30
D: 2020-06-08
View Details
Kiereck, Thomas
Corleen Jackson
B: 1971-09-05
D: 2020-06-07
View Details
Jackson, Corleen
Stephen Reed
B: 1947-12-03
D: 2020-06-06
View Details
Reed, Stephen
Keith Daggett
B: 1938-12-11
D: 2020-06-05
View Details
Daggett, Keith
Russell Terrance
B: 1982-06-09
D: 2020-06-03
View Details
Terrance, Russell
Lucy Roundpoint
B: 1953-07-28
D: 2020-05-31
View Details
Roundpoint, Lucy
Betty Sharlow
B: 1933-03-17
D: 2020-05-30
View Details
Sharlow, Betty
Isabel Francis
B: 1924-10-22
D: 2020-05-29
View Details
Francis, Isabel
Ruth Smutz
B: 1932-02-29
D: 2020-05-28
View Details
Smutz, Ruth


Use the form above to find your loved one. You can search using the name of your loved one, or any family name for current or past services entrusted to our firm.

Click here to view all obituaries
Search Obituaries
100 North Main Street
Massena, NY 13662
Phone: (315) 769-3579
Fax: (315) 769-3570
Howard Despaw

Howard L. Despaw

Sunday, May 2nd, 1937 - Saturday, January 18th, 2020
Recommend this to your friends.
Share via:

Sign in to the Family Interactive Login

The Family Interactive feature enhances An Amazing Life. Authorized family members can securely access their loved one's memorial website settings at any time.

Share Book of Memories with a Friend

Please enter the name and email details so that we can send your friend a link to the online tribute. No names or addresses will be collected by using this service.

Email Sent

Your email has been sent.

To share your memory on the wall of Howard Despaw, sign in using one of the following options:

Sign in with Facebook


Sign in with your email address

Your condolence has been posted successfully

Provide comfort for the family by sending flowers or planting a tree in memory of Howard Despaw

No Thanks

Contact Funeral Home

Please enter your question or comment below:

Email Sent

Your email has been sent.

Howard's Tribute Fund

  •  Full Name
  •  Initials
  •  Anonymous
By continuing, you agree with the terms and privacy policy.

Howard's Tribute Fund

There may be a delay while processing. Please do not click the back button or refresh while a payment is processing.
Send Flowers
Guaranteed hand delivery by a local florist


NORFOLK – Surrounded by his loving wife and children, Howard Lloyd Despaw, 82, of South Main Street, passed away Saturday afternoon, January 18, 2020 after a brief illness.

Howard was born May 2, 1937 in Norfolk, the son of the late Howard G. and Margaret (Donie) Despaw. He attended Norfolk schools. On August 31, 1956, he entered the US Army, serving during the Korean War with the Artillary Division and honorably discharged in 1962. On November 28, 1959, he married Sylvia Ann Davis at St. John’s Church. On Thanksgiving Day 2019, they celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary.

Howard worked for a time at the Norfolk Paper Mill, before going work at Kraft Foods in Canton where he was a cheesemaker. He retired in 1998 after 29 years of service. He was currently a 40-year member of the Norfolk American Legion Post 925, Gerald R. Roy AMVETS Post 4, VFW Post 1143; and a Life Member of the Korean War Veterans Association Chapter 284, where he served as their treasurer for 13 years. He was also a past member of the Norfolk Volunteer Fire Department, where he was recently honored for his years of service. Over the past three years, he has become a member with 3 Senior Clubs, Norwood Golden Agers, Norfolk Jolly Agers, and most of all Massena Senior Citizens. Since his retirement, he has enjoyed many events including trips, dances, and dinners.

Howard is survived by his loving wife of 60 years, Sylvia; his children and their spouses, Shari and Jim Hartigan, Shelly M. Despaw, Sean and Michelle Despaw, and Sharlene and Scott Lantry; 12 grandchildren, Shawn C. (Jodie), Shannon, Lisa (Matt), Sean Michael, Lee, Jessica, Alex, Amy, Nathaniel (Emily), Andrew L., Emily L. and Erin L.; and his great grandson, Paul Robert.

He is also survived by his sister, Sally French of East Syracuse; his brothers, Billy and Midge Kovach, Terry and Naomie Despaw, and Robert and Pat Despaw; and many nieces and nephews.

In addition to his parents, he was predeceased by his sisters, Nancy Purves and Joan James.

Per Howard’s wishes, there will be no public calling hours. A celebration of his life will be held at the Massena Senior Citizens at a time to be announced in the spring.

In lieu of flowers those wishing may consider donations to Hospice of St. Lawrence Valley or Massena Senior Citzens, 61 Beach Street, Massena, New York 13662.
Read Less

To send flowers to the family or plant a tree in memory of Howard L. Despaw, please visit our Heartfelt Sympathies Store.

Service Details

There are no events scheduled. You can still show your support by sending flowers directly to the family, or planting a memorial tree in memory of Howard L. Despaw.


  • American Legion
  • Army
  • Veterans of Foreign Wars


We encourage you to share your most beloved memories of Howard here, so that the family and other loved ones can always see it. You can upload cherished photographs, or share your favorite stories, and can even comment on those shared by others.

Private Condolence
Provide comfort for the family of Howard L. Despaw by sending flowers.
Guaranteed hand delivery by a local florist

Rod and Sandy Morrill

Posted at 05:01pm
Sylvia and family,
We were indeed saddened to learn of Howard's passing.
You and your entire family are in our thoughts. Wonderful
you were granted so many years to enjoy together.
Our deepest sympathy to you.
Rod and Sandy Morrill

Tim Mattice

Posted at 09:59am
Sylvia, condolences to you and your family. I know how hard it has been the last several months for both you and the family.

Tim Mattice

Sharon Logan

Posted at 12:44pm
I wish to express my condolences to Howard's wife, Sylvia and family. I have known Howard for about 30 years, he was a great neighbor and friend, he will be missed by all that knew him. May he rest in peace.

Photos & Videos

Photo Album

Upload up to 10 images at a time, max 8MB each